Are you coaching yourself or betraying yourself?


Hey Reader,

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.”

~ Alice Walker

Every day, we make a crucial choice that shapes our entire existence. It's not a choice about career, relationships, or location. It's far more fundamental: Do we betray ourselves, or do we coach ourselves?

Each time we betray ourselves, we reinforce Alice Walker's observation. We convince ourselves that we're powerless, that external forces control our destiny, that we're victims of circumstance rather than the architects of our own lives.

The most insidious part? Self-betrayal disguises itself as virtue. We call it "being flexible," "keeping the peace," or "being realistic." But underneath, we're teaching ourselves that our needs don't matter.

So what's the alternative?

SELF-COACHING (the radical act of reclaiming your power).

It's the practice of turning reflection into action by creating simple, practical steps that help you break old cycles and build momentum.

Self-coaching demands something different. It requires asking yourself the hard questions:

  • "What story am I believing about myself that isn't serving me?"
  • "What's one thing I can do today that my future self will thank me for?"
  • "What would honoring myself look like right now - not tomorrow, right now?"

Recently, I stood before a room full of leaders and spoke about this concept. These weren't people unfamiliar with pressure, decision-making, or responsibility. Yet when we dove into the topic of self-betrayal versus self-coaching, the room shifted.

Because here's what I've learned: The higher you climb in leadership, the easier it becomes to betray yourself in the name of serving others.

If you're interested in learning more about the C-Method Framework I shared with my client to help you start self-coaching – tune into episode 97 of the Your Next Move Podcast.

Until next time,

— Kimberly

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Kimberly Brown, @kimberlybonline

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